Irked

This has only happened two times in my life, the first of which I was really bummed about because I really liked the guy and the second it was only an acquaintance, but still I don't understand the need for girls to act this way.What am I on about now? Well I'm talking about girls who give you highly unnecessary information for absolutely no reason whatsoever as far as I can tell. It might be jealousy, but I've got little exposure to that, cause most women do not see me as a threat or competition at all. They know by my gestures and interactions, that I'm in friendly mode, not predator mode. Yet two women I've met in my life decided it would be a great idea to mention to me that the guy was not interested in me, only in them. Which wouldn't bother me so much if they'd not waited until some time after having a conversation to mention this. Take for example Exhibit A:  Lauren something or other and my crush on a guy named Alex. I had put in the yearbook under my picture secret crush Alex, however I knew it wouldn't come out until like the end of the year and I wouldn't have to face rejection. Cowardly I know, anywho, Lauren worked for our school yearbook and apparently they got to my name really fast, because one day before going to a class that contained me, Her and Alex, she surprised me in the bathroom. I was just leaving or something and out of nowhere she was like Soo you like Alex huh? I about had a heart attack, cause I thought it was really obvious, so I asked how she knew and she told me she worked on the yearbook. I was like oh well  I plan to tell him eventually or something of the ilk. She made a somewhat encouraging reply, then she proceeded to tell me that he took her to the movies the day before we were having this conversation. I was like devastated, cause then I thought that meant dating (I have old fashioned ideas of dating) and that they were a couple. However, she didn't seem like she was trying to warn me off, but then again she didn't say outright I should go for it. She just told me that he took her out the day before and they sat in his car and talked, then she walked away.
Understandably I was a little puzzled as to why she'd be telling me this, especially as I hadn't asked and really hadn't meant to have anyone in on my plans to tell Alex I liked him just in case it ended in rejection. So instead I just chose not to tell him at all, because if he was after another girl, and I was painfully available and he must have known it, then obviously he didn't have those feelings for me. I just feel like maybe she could have not said anything and I could've had a chance to see what he would say. Either way there was no reason for her to divulge to me that I basically shouldn't consider him an option.
What reminded me of incident number one, since it has been 10 years since then is a recent incident with a girl who actually was a friend this time. I only knew Lauren in passing, but this girl I've known her a year and helped her with her on and off again relationship with a guy. In fact we'd gone for a girls night out based on helping her feel better about her off again time. They're now on again. However, me, her and my roommate went out to dance and maybe have a drink. She and I got a drink, but my roommate abstained and eventually bailed early due to a hectic schedule making her tired. Which I understood. Anywho, upon arriving at the pub, I noticed my friend making googly eyes at some guy and saying he was cute. I looked over (it was dim) and was like you know I think I know that guy. We decided to get a drink and then head back up. Upon which the guy came a lot closer and I did know him, so I smiled and waved and then he came over and was like Hannah that is you! He was like he didn't recognize me, but I looked familiar. I happened to be wearing my hair sort of down and straightened, which I've been told makes me look like I have a twin (which I don't have) because it changes my usually ponytail look drastically. Anywho, the guy came up and gave me a friend side hug, so I knew off the bat I wasn't his main focus. Then he called me old. Oh not in so many words, but it was like My gosh what are you doing out? As if I wasn't supposed to be out on a school night and not so late at a pub dancing. I felt like how a teacher would feel when a student runs into them out on a school night and not already in bed. I let it slide though and introduced him to both my roommate and my friend. He was very polite and was like he was out with his brothers (fraternity) and then he invited us all to go dancing. My friend was the first to be like let's do it, so I followed suit and so did my roommate. He immediately plastered himself to my friend and they hit it off while having fun.  I watched long enough to make sure he wasn't one of those grabby creeper drunks, but he was solid, so I turned my attention to trying to get my roommate to enjoy herself. Then I ran into oh say about 5 other friends I knew and we all started dancing and having fun. Occasionally, the guy and girl would come and dance with us and then they'd separate to plaster themselves to each other and I went back to getting my dance on.
Long story short, the night ended and my friend was staying at my place for the evening and so we sat and talked about how I knew him, how cute she thought he was and how nice and polite he was. So basically girl talk after meeting a guy I suppose. .It was the first time I'd had this happen, though she didn't know. Then we were contemplating what to eat or we had gone off the subject and then she was like I hope you know he only talked to you to get closer to me. She told me that while they'd danced he'd admitted that his friend hug to me was his 'In' so he could talk to her. She was like they were making googly eyes at each other from the beginning so I was his perfect opening. Then she fell silent. I was like I know, then I didn't say anything else. She went on to wax the moon about him and I didn't let it bother me so much, until later. It was sort of like was that really necessary to say that. She didn't say it, but it sounded a lot to me like she was saying he didn't actually want to talk to you, he just saw me and wanted to talk to me and just so happened to know you, so he found a way into our group using you. He didn't want you. I feel like um I know he didn't want me. He gave me a friend hug for petes sake, then spoke to me for all of 6 seconds on the dance floor before plastering himself to her and ignoring the world at large. It could not be any clearer where his interest lied if there was a neon sign above his head. So his lack of interest is not what bothers me and it's frankly nothing new, it's just her random need to almost make me feel like I shouldn't harbor any interest in him, cause he had none in me. I'm 99% sure that wasn't her purpose and maybe she said it to feel pretty and wanted after breaking up with her guy, but nonetheless it just irked me that she felt the need to make me feel unwanted in the process.
I felt like I needed to point out to her a few facts, which was that he and I had spoken briefly before and that he knew I was about 4 or 5 years older than him as both of us are considered non-traditional students. If he'd wanted to get to know me before we have class three days out of the week so plenty of time. She was like he's shy, which might account for why he'd not have indicated an interest in class, but it was also that he gave me a friend hug. There are two guaranteed subtle ways for a girl to know she's not wanted by a guy except as a friend. There is the friend hug, which guys say that they only hug a girl from the front to feel the pillow of her chest and gauge exactly how much they want to be interested in her. They only give the side friend hug, because they don't want to disrespect a friend or send mixed signals by giving a full frontal hug. I'm sure it's more than that, but it's a pretty sure fire way to tell if a guy is interested. Especially as on the dance floor he was okay giving my friend a full frontal embrace, but barely laid a hand on my shoulder before backing off. Then there's the dreaded buddy pat. This is when a guy bumps into you and you know him and he turns around, pats you on the shoulder and is like hey (buddy is implied, but they most often go with You) How's it going? They never wait for a reply, or they listen only half heartedly as they track that foxy female they're hoping to catch up with. This is often followed by It was good seeing you, as in they don't want to see you again anytime soon before they depart. So his signals showed no interest and I was possibly super friendly, but I often am if someone I know is being super friendly to me, alcohol induced or not. Either way I made sure not to give off any interest signals so it wouldn't get awkward. I'm a master of body language. Which brings me back to the why did she feel the need to say he wasn't interested in me except as a means to get to her, when I didn't ask and frankly I didn't care. I was high off a good night and she brought my energy low by bringing that up so awkwardly and I'm like how to respond to someone needing to boost themselves up by letting you know you were not that important in the grand scheme of meeting guys in pub. I knew I was at least 5 to 7 years older than most people there. I just wanted to dance and maybe have one drink, while surreptitiously playing DD(Designated Driver). I wasn't expecting to find romance and I hadn't known he'd be there at all, so it just bugs me. It's like if she needs to be the center of attention that much she can go dancing without me. Then again, I've fulfilled my role as friend counselor and she and her guy are on talking terms again, so she has no need to really contact me until something else goes wrong. So back to studying again I go. All studies, no playtime. Maybe I need to get a ball. I love balls, no pun intended. lol